Sunday, April 19, 2009

Its Your Duty...


I subscribe to joebuddentv on youtube. Dude is actually pretty funny. This morning I catch this video below. Basically Budden is kind of upset because he is horny and his girl, Tahiry (if you don't know you better ask somebody) wont have sex with him.



Budden's argument is that if she is his significant other then it is her obligation to please him. If she doesn't then she can't get mad if he goes out the next day and fucks another chick (although he said he would never do that). She told dude he better go jerk off. rotf. He was on pussy punishment. I don't understand this either but that's for another blog topic. What say you? If you are in a committed relationship, is it your duty to make sure that your partner is pleased sexually? This question goes for men and women although I don't think many women have this problem compared to men.

10 comments:

miss-b. said...

buddentv is hilarious. he's always been funny so his video blogs do not surprise me.

on topic - it is definately your duty to please your s/o. as the saying goes "what he/she won't do, there's always someone who will". I whole heartedly believe that.

though I do feel that a lot of people cheat because they aren't fully pleased (whether it be sexually or emotionally) in their relationships - I don't think it's an excuse. if you are not satisfied then you should leave..

Streetz said...

hell yes! especially when you have certain needs.. if u got a S/O you gotta lay it down period!

DC DIVA DATING ADVENTURES said...

Yeah, but sometimes we do have "headaches" or aren't "in the mood"...rare (for me atleast) so that's when I whip out his lotion of choice, and he can give himself a hand job...if I'm feeling generous enough, I'll do it for him...

tutu said...

The word "Duty" sounds harsh...it sounds like a job. I would hope that you would actually want to keep your man happy but not feel forced to do it. At the end of a day, you should enjoy keeping your partner happy...and not do it if you aren't going to be enthusiastic about it.

I do agree w/ the old saying...b/c some random chick is always ready and willing to do what you won't do. So, you better handle your business like a pro. Still, if you're truly holding it down, occasional "headaches" won't send him to the next chick b/c he'll know what he has at home.

Tunde said...

miss-b: i definitely agree with the quoted part of your response but like you said its not an excuse. just because someone can GIVE you crack does that mean you should try it? lol.

streetz: i think everyone in a relationship should have this mind frame.


dc: i know sometimes women don't just feel like it. so how do you feel about women you try to use sex as a punishment?

tutu: i agree. duty just sounds harsh but i didn't know what other word to use. i also agree on your point about WANTING to keep your s/o happy. if everyone would be concerned with the happiness and fulfillment of their s/o i think that would solve a lot of problems in relationships. like i said to dc, headaches are sometimes excused but sometimes women come up with bs excuses. i'm not one for excuses.

DC DIVA DATING ADVENTURES said...

Tunde, sex cannot, and should not be used as a form of punishment or control. A woman, who is smart, knows that. On the other hand, a cunning, smart woman, will use the “Art of Seduction” to her advantage, and her guy won’t even know what the hell is going on. Don’t believe me. Pick the book up! It’s a damn good read.

People put soooo much emphasis on sex. But once that wears off, then what? You have to learn to tap into all the other parts of a man/woman.

Trust me, I’m honing my skills baby!!!! (LOL)

Tunde said...

i hear ya dc. if only more women felt this way. lol.

Reecie said...

duty? no sah. I agree with Tutu that you should want to please your partner MOST of the time...but everyone doesn't get what they want ALL the time in life. And lets face it, you won't always be able to have sex when you want it. Having a temper tantrum over some sex is childish. like Tahiry said if you want to go...then go. but your actions will determine my reactions.

Anonymous said...

1 Corinthians 7:3-5 (NIV)

3The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

I know this verse only pertains to married couples, but I thought I'd just throw it in. :)

Ms.Minx said...

The only issue I have is with the word "obligation/duty", like Tutu & Reecie have said.
Joe B needs to chill with that, lol. If he wants to go on and get it somewhere else cuz she didn't want to give it to him this one time, then he should just keep a bunch of jumpoffs on speed dial and tell Tahiry to move out, lol!

@ Anon: I'ma go out on a limb and say most of us that commented are committing all kindsa fornication, :oP, so our "lack of self control" (in this context)is prob'ly the thing that we can relate to most of all, LMAO!