Dear Tunde (Vol 1)

Who is wrong in this situation?

This is a good way to start off my next 100 posts. Today while talking to a classmate via Facebook Chat, she asked me if I take blog topic suggestions/advice. I never really considered but I guess there is a time for anything so here goes. This post is about a "friend of a friend".

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Also she will be reading this post as well as the comments so please leave comments, if not for my benefit then for hers. Comments would especially be appreciated from guys that are in fraternities.

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(Year is 2007)

Kim and her boyfriend of two years, Derrick, mutually decide to call it quits right before graduation. Even though they had a good run at Tennessee State University (TSU), Kim found a really good job at the Department of Agriculture in D.C. and Derrick is staying in Nashville to work for Saturn. Kim was Miss TSU and Derrick was very popular on campus (being a Kappa didn't hurt either). They keep in contact over the years but they never really re-kindled anything even though there were residual feelings on both parts.

(Fast forward to 2009)

While out at Shadow Bar in DC, Kim runs into a guy that looks really familiar but she can't really place his face. After a few minutes of conversation she realizes that he went to undergrad with her. His name is Jeremy and he moved to DC after graduation to work for Lockheed Martin. They have a good time that night chopping it up and talking about the undergrad days. They exchange numbers and later on that night it dawns on Kim that Jeremy is a Kappa and she thinks he might even be Derrick's line brother. She asks Jeremy about it and her thoughts are confirmed. She tells Jeremy that she used to date Derrick and Jeremy says that he knows and it really shouldn't matter since it was so long ago. Jeremy and Kim continue to date for a couple of months.

Somehow word gets back to Derrick in Nashville and he calls Kim to confront her. Kim's response to Derrick is "Why should you care if we aren't together anymore?". Derrick feels like Kim and Jeremy went behind his back without consulting him about them dating and if they both liked each other then they BOTH should have come to him for clearance.

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So here go the questions.

-Does Derrick have the right to ask for clearance from both Kim and Jeremy? or either one of them?

-Should Kim feel like she's a chapter set-out?

-Should any of this mater since it was so long ago (and Kim and Jeremy live far away)?

-Did Jeremy betray Derrick's friendship?

-(those frat dudes reading this) What would you do if you were in Jeremy's situation? In Derrick's?

-(ladies) Would you ever date two dudes from the same chapter regardless of the circumstances?

Love Triangle

***This is purely a fictional story so don't get any ideas that this has anything to do with me or anyone that I know. lol***

Thomas, Keith and Andre are really close friends. They've been boys since their freshman year at Clark Atlanta University. Now they are all in their mid 20's and have respectable careers while living great lives in the city of Atlanta. Keith has a long time girlfriend, Erica, who also attended Clark Atlanta University with them. Things are going well in their relationship and Keith is thinking of proposing to Erica.

One day while Thomas, Keith and Andre are having wings and beer at happy hour, Keith tells his boys that he is planning on proposing to his girlfriend. Thomas buys a round of Patron shots in order to celebrate the occasion. The next afternoon while Thomas and Andre are working out at the YMCA, Andre asks if Thomas can keep a secret. Andre says that he can't tell a soul. Thomas says sure. Andre explains that two weeks before while Keith was out of town for a business trip, he saw Erica at Verve Nightclub. They chatted for a while and he noticed that there was some sexual tension between them. She told him that she had a crush on him since their days at CAU. One thing led to another and they ended up sleeping together. He also explained that he felt terrible and that it would never happen again but he needed to tell somebody.

This information was a definite shock to Thomas. He never would have suspected that 1. Andre would sleep with his boy's woman and 2. Erica would step out on Keith. At this point Thomas had a dilemma on his hands. Should he keep Andre and Erica's secret and allow Keith to propose to her under those pretenses? Should he tell Keith which would cause him to lose one of his best friends and the love of his life? Also, if he tells Keith will he look at him in a hateful way for being the bearer of bad news?

Thomas wished that Andre never entrusted him with such a curse secret.

If you were in Thomas' situation would you keep the secret or would you tell Keith? If you were Keith would you want Thomas to tell you? Also, ladies please feel free to change the names to female names and answer the questions.