Racist or Truth Teller?

After hearing/reading about this new scandal involving Harry Reid I'm really over people. Basically he made comments saying Barack Obama was elected president because he was light skinned and had a lack of "negro dialect". I feel like people nowadays get offended by the simplest things. Honestly, Harry Reid told the truth and because he's a senator he's not allowed to have an opinion? If you don't agree with what he said then don't vote for him again when his term is up. Simple as that. When Wale said something similar in his song Shades ft Chrisette Michele no one raised an eyebrow:

"What if Barack skin was all black truthfully would he be a candidate or just a blackened community because black dudes tend to lack unity"

Let's be real with ourselves, if Barack was dark skinned and spoke with a distinct accent (not even slang) would he be president today? Probably not. Would he have gotten support from Caucasians? Probably not.

I think its a matter of people getting mad at the truth. Like they say: "The truth hurts." When Don Imus called the Rutger's players nappy headed hoe's, he was wrong. He didn't know if they were hoe's or not. Nappy headed? Sure a lot of them were. I think if anything Don Imus should have been called sexist instead of racist.

People are so sensitive. People have the right to say what they want about who they want (as long as you don't slander or libel). Its called the 1st Amendment. Its really not about what you are called its about what you answer to. Remember:

"If they talked about Jesus what makes you think they won't talk about you."

Night at the Roxbury

Anyone who knows me knows I'm a very social person. I like hanging around my friends and keeping good company. So naturally I'm inclined to go out often. When I go out to clubs I tend to hang out with the people that I know, people watch, have a few drinks and even dance a little. Lately I haven't been motivated to actually go to nightclubs. Maybe its the fact that I live in Nashville and the nightlife scene is the pits. These are the reasons why clubs have lost a lot of their luster, at least in my mind:

452% markup on liquor

I'm really over paying $10-$17 for a cup of watered down liquor or $400-$1000 for a bottle/bottle service for a bottle that costs $30-$40. The only other business that rapes their customers as such are credit card companies.

Standing in line

Why are bouncers always douchebags?

I can be quite the impatient person. What really grinds my gears is when I know a club is holding the line on purpose. This holds especially true whenever the temperatures are lower than 50 degrees. Why should I have to stand in line to come in your club to pay YOU money?

Crowds

This just looks uncomfortable.

Although I like to be around people I don't like to feel too crowded. Some people have no concept of personal space and it makes me feel claustrophobic. Feeling like a sardine in a can is not a good look. Plus when its that crowded you tend to notice that some people tend not to be so fresh. I have a keen sense of smell which brings me to my next point:

Smoke

I'd be lying if I said I don't smoke I've never smoked but its something about second hand smoke that really bothers me. Jacks Cigarettes smell horrible to me and the scent stays in your clothes. I hear women complain all the time about how the smell stays in their hair. Glad I don't have that problem. Thank goodness for cities that ban smoking in public places.

A lot of times I don't experience a lot of these things every time I go out. Maybe 2 or 3 at once but at some point and time I experience them all in some form or fashion. Maybe I should investigate alternative forms of entertainment. House gatherings, lounges, strip clubs.

Dream-12/28/09

*****It's been a while since I blogged about one of my dreams. I have been having dreams but I just haven't been feeling motivated to blog about them. *****

In this particular dream I was back in college only I went to a school that actually had a football team that had a big time football program. My best friend played defensive end for our school's team and he was thought of as being a very high draft pick in the upcoming NFL draft. For some reason he asked me to come to the combine with him. If you don't know what the combine is, it's where all the potential NFL draft picks come and perform tests. Like the 40 yard dash, bench pressing and even written tests.

While there some of the coaches asked me what position I played. I told them that I was there strictly for support. I kept getting asked over and over until I eventually told the coaches that I played wide receiver. They had me run the 40 yard dash and I shattered the record with a time 4.02 seconds. After that I excelled at most of the other drills and tests. Pretty good for someone who never played college football.

Come draft day this is where it gets weird. I was invited to the NFL Draft and all my family was there. I got picked third overall by the St Louis Rams. Once home my parents threw me a huge party and all my friends and family were invited. Funny thing is all my ex-girlfriends (except for one) showed up. I was wondering why my parents would invite them but they came. It really was on some Mike Jones sh*t. You know: "Back then they ain't want me, now I'm hot they all on me."

*****This dream was so weird. Usually if I wake up mid-dream and I fall back to sleep I usually have a completely different dream. Last night I woke up maybe 3-4 times and my dream kept picking up where it left off.*****

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Football- To dream that you are playing football or on a football field, represents your competitive nature. Alternatively, you are not getting enough cooperation in some area of your life. You are faced with many demanding challenges.

Ex- Past lovers often highlight the positive experiences you had with that person. It could also signify aspects of yourself that you have x'd out or neglected.

The Ugly Truth

Today one of my friends, @Khalisha1981, posed this question on twitter:

Twitter Fam,how important is physical attraction in ur man/woman?

After not much thought at all I replied that looks are and will always be at the top of my list as far as a relationship. Its not rocket science so it's not hard to understand that when a man and a woman first meet it's usually physical attraction that beguiles them to each other. I know that looks may bring a person in and it's the personality that makes that person stay but something has to reel that person in. After I posted my response I was called superficial and shallow. #cmonson o_0

You mean to tell me that you could be in a relationship with a person that you don't find attractive? No matter how much you want to believe deep down inside I know you don't believe that. I think there could only possibly be four reasons why you would in a relationship with a person that you don't find attractive.

1. Freak Accident:

This is where personality and love would probably play the biggest role. Looks don't last forever and I think if one person in the relationship were to suffer some kind of freak accident that left them mutilated or disfigured then at this point looks should be the least of any one's concerns (see I'm not really that shallow?).

2. You're just plain lying:

Most people like to be politically correct. Saying that looks matter isn't PC so most people think it but most people don't like to own up to it. You should mean what you say and say what you mean.

3. You're not actually dating that person:

There are some women out there (yes you) who would date a man regardless of what he looks like because he has a certain amount of money or he has a certain status. I really don't think this counts because that woman is not dating that man. Rather she is dating his money or his status. There are other words I could use for these type of people women but that's for another blog.

4. You're not attractive yourself:

I'm calling a spade a spade. If you aren't attractive yourself of course you're going to say that looks don't matter. #shots Understandably there is a HUGE difference between looks and attraction. If we find each other attractive that's all that should matter but if NOONE else finds you attractive then that also speaks volumes. If you are offended by this point then you just might be a spade. #youmad?

My homegirl @seeomora had this to say on the subject:

If I can't imagine u naked then I don't want to look

I think this about sums up how I feel. So how bout it? How important are looks vs. attraction in a relationship to you? Am I really the 2009 version of Shallow Hal?

Big Booty Judy

I was on twitter today and I noticed the trending topic #playedout. As I read the various responses I was slightly amused by some and I was generally annoyed by the majority of them. Anyway, it caused to think about some things that are played out. One thing that I think is played out is... *drum roll*

Phat Asses (over all thickness for that matter)

Now I know what you're thinking. I'm tripping right? Or maybe I'm delusional? How could I say that about the one body part on a woman that most men can't resist? Hear me out.

I used to always find myself lusting after in relationships with thicker women. It used to be something about a phat ass and double D breasts that sent me over the edge. I mean don't get me wrong they still do but I have come to appreciate the petiteness of a woman. There is nothing wrong with a B cup (or a full A). I'm from the state of mind that all you really need is mouthful. Honestly, anything more than that is extra. You don't need to have the body type to fill out a pair of apple bottoms if you just as sexy in a pair of 7 jeans. The only advantage I could imagine to having a bigger ass (from a guy's p.o.v.) would be back shots. As someone who really enjoys that there really isn't that big of a difference unless you going from say Pinky to Amy Winehouse. So for all you women who aren't as blessed in that area, there is hope for you yet. Just joking (a little). [*1]

Next I think we all are in agreement that the majority of men are visual creatures. Reading this blog Lost in Brook Lynn (Magic City Dancer), she did a question & answer session with the manager of Magic City. Here is an excerpt of the dialog:

Do you ever stop caring that there are a bunch of nude women around you ?

-Definitely, it’s overrated. Most women look better with their clothes on.

Now this is coming from a man who sees probably the best looking strippers in the country. In my opinion ass dimples and booty do's is not what's hot in the streets. These are things that can look good in clothes but when those clothes come off all that thickness just isn't as appealing.

Probably not so much

I don't know maybe if more men thought like me then women wouldn't feel the need to try to fool us into thinking they have what we desire (breast augmentation, butt pads, underwire pushup bras, etc.). I for one would be disappointed if I managed to be fooled by such tricks, deception and swindles. A classic example are of this is Nicki Minaj. If you were to see her without all that crap she wears she's actually a pretty decent looking woman. I believe she has fallen victim to industry packaging and feels the need to sell sex. Either way, its rumored that she wears butt implants. Compare her to one of my celebrity crushes, Keri Hilson, who embraces her body and doesn't feel the need to try to bamboozle us. I would roll with Keri any day of the week.

Queen of Butt Pads

-OR-

Slim & Slender

I don't want this post to be misconstrued as me trying to degrade or put down my thicker sisters because that's hardly the case. This post is just something that I thought has been over emphasized and is now getting kinda played.

With that I leave you with a quote from the philosopher Malice of Clipse [Counseling track ft. Nicole Hurst off their new album Till the Casket Drops]:

"I used to be all about a phat ass

then I found a cutie with a flat ass

good hair, nice smile but a flat ass

2 outta 3, shit I couldn't let that pass" [*1]

[*1] I am in no way saying I like flat asses. I'm actually more of an ass man than a breast man. Just wanted to put that out there.

Call Me Mr. Flintstone

So many jokes could be said here.

I've never really blogged about sex and I really don't have a reason why I haven't. I mean I love sex. Everything about it. How it makes me feel. How I can bring multiple orgasms make a woman feel. When sex is good it can make life that much better.

Laying in bed I just watched the Bedrock video by Young Money. I actually like this song for some reason even though the only artists I really like from Young Money are Jae Millz & Gudda. I actually think Nicki Minaj, Tyga, Mack Maine and this Chucky character are garbage. But getting back on topic I couldn't help but chuckle at this line:

"Call me Mr. Flintstone, I can make your bedrock."

In my sexual experiences I have learned that women who talk a lot about what they can do often leave much to be desired in that department (maybe in the comment section some women can speak on their experiences). There are so many songs that would have you believe that its cool to brag on your sexual prowess but in my opinion that's like peeling a ripe banana only to find out its rotten on the inside (see what i did there? lol). I did a search on my iTunes on the word sex and these are the songs that I got:

I Invented Sex- Trey Songz ft. Drake

Sex Therapy- Robin Thicke

Sex in Crazy Places- Gucci Mane ft. Bobby Valentino & Nicki Minaj

That's just a couple. I'm not going to get into some of the things that come out of Nicki Minaj, Trina and Lil Kim's mouth or goes in. I would put money up that these three chicks are probably terrible in bed [*1]. Once again from my experiences it's usually the ones that are quiet and don't have to talk about what they can do that will knock your socks off literally.

Be honest. Who's been here before?

I'm quite confident in what I can do (or can't do) but I don't see the need to broadcast that to whomever. If they are fortunate enough then they can have my actions speak much louder than my words (yeah I did that lol). Ladies, do you brag on your good good? No Ashanti. Fellas, are you in these streets telling these woman how you can have them walking funny the next day? Maybe you're like me and don't talk about it, you just be about it. Speak your piece/peace. lol

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[*1] I have nothing against these women and I could be absolutely wrong but even if I had the opportunity to see for myself I think I would pass. Well maybe not on Trina. She's Still Da Baddest B*tch.

Man Law or Common Courtesy

Study them, learn them

There are man laws that I believe are universally accepted like:

Under no circumstances may two men share an umbrella. And if you compliment a guy on his six-pack, you'd better be talking about his choice of beer. Also, there is no reason for guys to watch ice skating or men's gymnastics. ever.

On the flip side there are man laws that are accepted by the majority but not observed by some. This could be total ignorance on part of the individual (which is no excuse) or that they just don't care. The man law that brought me to write this blog is:

If you are interested in a female or you vice verse and you've been out on dates, dated etc. then said girl is off limits to me.

Kind of looks suspect, right?

I'm not speaking on women who my boy may have just smashed off because that opens up a whole new can of worms and the dynamics in that situation works very differently. Like why would I seriously pursue a woman who my boy used to date or has dated, casually or seriously? It would just make for an awkward situation and that's not my style.

Previously I've done blog posts about thirsty broads. (You can read them here and here.) In my disdain for the broads that brought me to write those blog posts, I neglected to mention that dudes in fact can be thirsty. I feel as if you would go as far as to try to scoop your friend's leftovers [or current(s)] then you are indeed a thirsty n***a. Excuse my bluntness but in my life I've learned that p*ssy comes a dime a dozen but real true and tried friends are hard to come by.

What say you? Have you ever tried to get with someone your friend dates/dated? Do you have that one thirsty friend who acts like they've never seen a member of the opposite sex? How did you handle it? Is that thirsty person you and you just haven't realized it?